Opposition in all things…Real versus False Connections

An article from Times magazine notes that genealogy, or exploring your family history, is the second most popular hobby next to gardening. Even more telling, these sites happen to be the second most visited category of websites. The most visited category of websites? Pornography.  While both categories boast  billion-dollar industries, I think the irony is actually…

Hershey Kiss Connection Challenge!

Valentines Day is right around the corner. For many couples it’s an exciting time of year. For others, it can be downright painful. Yet others find themselves not knowing quite what to do or where to go to eat to “WOW” their sweetheart. While holidays can be times to share love in BIG ways, research actually…

Hold Up an Emotional Mirror

Research shows that when children (and adults) are experiencing a strong emotion (fear, anger, sadness, stress, etc.) it is very difficult to learn anything or listen to anyone. Have you seen this in children’s meltdowns? In the heat of the moment many parents are worked up as well and they try to work things out…

Make Time for 9!

When I teach parenting workshops, parents tend to really love this information. Again, the point is to help things go right. If you are familiar with the previous post on the Parenting Pyramid, you can see that this concept aims at strengthening the bottom level of the pyramid – the CONNECTION between parents and children.…

The Parenting Pyramid- Help Things go RIGHT

Many parents get caught in the trap of spending too much time threatening and disciplining their children and correcting them  when things go wrong. I’m guessing 70-80% of all parenting books focus primarily on what to do when things go wrong – what discipline strategy to use or what natural consequences should look like. Now don’t…

Perma

For decades psychologists were stuck in a rut of focusing primarily on the negative in both their research and their practice – much of that centered on treating and preventing depression and anxiety. But around 1998, Professor Martin Seligman changed all of that. He shook the field as he promoted positivity and flourishing. When he became…